Friday, June 27, 2014

Baby Room

I can't leave out the baby's room!

If I haven't said it yet, my babys' name is Gabriel Ethan.  I don't like lots of blue blue blue stuff at all.  I went with a desert grey (it has a tan undertone) and a teal/aquaish color.  I think the room is pretty neutral.  The furniture is white.  Here are a few pics of the room.  It's almost done, I'm just missing a few shelves with baskets for the wall, the custom made monogram to go on the wall where the crib is, night stand, and the platform for the bed. I swear it costs a small fortune to get ready for such a little person.  

Oh second baby shower.  My second baby shower was with my family in Baltimore, MD and I was so grateful to get so many much needed things for the baby!   I got much needed things at the other shower too, but this shower finished off the list!  I send a HUGE thank you to all of my family and friends that have helped me get ready to welcome this little guy in to the world. 

My wall unit came from IKEA, that includes the two tall cabinets with drawers, a nightstand, and changing table.  We also got the carpet and overhead lighting from IKEA as well.  The mirrored serving tray and lamp came from Target, at different times.  The crib is from Babies R Us and the crib bedding is from Carousel Designs ( out of Georgia.  Oh yea the curtains!  The material was on back order and they are finally being made by the company. The bedding and accent pillows came from Target as well. Mirror and owl hooks came from IKEA too.  The remaining shelving and bed platform will come from IKEA. What can I say, I love that place!

20-35 weeks

I apologize that I have not updated in such a long time. So here we go from 20-35 weeks.

20 week 2 day Ultrasound!!

It's a boy for sure!  The doctor placed the tranducer on my belly and as soon as he did it was clear that we were having a baby for for sure!  He had his butt facing us and we had a clear view of his man parts.  If you are a person that does not want to know the sex, I advise that you look away as they are doing your ultrasound.

I will be honest with you and say it wasn't very eventful through those weeks.  My eating was on and off, I never had any cravings, and still don't, I was seeing my doctor every 2 weeks, and steadily gaining weight, in an apporpriate way.  I didn't really start showing until I was 28-30 weeks in. Infact at 6 months I even participated in a photoshoot and you could not tell at all that I was pregnant.  I was excited for that!

 At 28 Weeks I went in for a rhogam injection.  It wasn't that bad, but burned a lot.  That same day I also had my routine appointment and a glucose test (sugar tolerance test).  They have you drink a drink, to me it tastes like just a very surgary juice, wait 1 hour and pull your blood exactly an hour after you finished your drink.  I was scheduled for this test 2 weeks prior, but due to flooding here and traffic I was 3 blocks away from the hospital at the time I should have been sitting to have my blood drawn.  It's very time sensitive so if you don't get there in time, then plan on rescheduling your appointment. 
Also at 28 weeks was my first baby shower and the same weekend I got married!  I traveled from Philadelphia to North Carolina for my baby shower and small wedding ceremony. It was a beautiful weekend and I'm so pleased at my dear friend that pulled it all off for me.  Of course our trip was not complete without being delayed one day due to a blown out tire just as we were getting on the highway.

Again, up until this point the most things that changed were just the weight gain, being able to feel the baby move more, finally some belly growth, and I've continued working as a vet tech.  I was moved off the night shift close to 6 months pregnant and placed on day shift as I could not be in radiology or be around for gas anesthesia procedures.  Now on day shift I handle in/out patient things, in house treatments, and training.  It works for me, but there are days I feel like a beach ball rolling around the clinic getting things done.

30 weeks
I woke up one morning and suddenly my belly had changed?!  I walked up to my husband and he looked and agreed something had changed with my belly.  I had no pain, no fluid leaks, nothing like that going on just a dropped sort of look.  I called my dr's office and was asked to come in that afternoon, but I would have to see a different doctor.  She stated that I'd only dropped to (-4), the scale starts at (-5), but that I measured smaller than she would like.

32 weeks
I went in for a growth ultrasound and the baby measured just fine.  There was plenty of fluid around him and he was appropriate weight for how far along we were, which was about 4lbs.
The following day I went in for my doctor visit.  He was okay with my pregnancy progress, did a routine check, and everything was good.  That day I did start to have some of my swelling start early in the morning and both my legs were super swollen.  He was not concerned becuase the swelling was even in both legs lol.  My doctor is so funny at times.  He's very open, matter of fact, not an alarmest, answers my husbands silly questions, wants pregnancy to progress without help unless there is a real risk to mom and/or baby, and always willing to teach.  At this point he feels as though my baby is going to be about 7lbs give or take a little, but not much bigger than that.  Thank goodess for my vagina!

                                                                   35 weeks
Now we are up to date.  I keep gaining steady weight and it's very hard on me.  I've gone from 175 to 200lbs and it's rough.  I don't know how people can carry around so much weight on a regular basis. After long 12-14 hour shifts at work My legs are swollen, my feet feel sore and even my knees hurt. Sleeping at night is very hard now.  Up to maybe 3 weeks ago I could sleep on my back with no problem and now sleeping on my back takes my breath away.  I sleep on my side, but my hips begin to burn and I rotate sides about every hour.  The baby stays on my right side so imagine what my shifting uterus feels like when i switch back to my left.  Painful!  I'm also up just as often to pee.  I swear I hate running to the bathroom.  Getting up and down is such a chore and so is getting in and out of the car and jeep.  I feel like a rollie-pollie.  My breasts have also started to grow AGAIN! How is this possible?!  I'm at the point where I'm over being pregnant and ready to just have this baby already.  I'm also very tired all the time again.  Where is this nesting energy people talk about?  Hasn't happened over here.  Thankfully, knock on wood, I haven't gotten any stretch marks anywhere.  I lube up daily with coconut oil and palmers cocoa butter.  I'm not sure if that saved me or not because according to my genetics I should have had a crap load of them by now.   I've even gone out and sported a bikini several times at the pool. 

Other changes- Now that the baby is super head down he presses on the nerves in my vagina quite frequently and I like to compare this to sciatica of the vagina.  It sends sharp shooting pains down there and wills top you in your tracks!  He also has a great way of rolling up under my rib cage on the right side constantly.  Seems like we are both running out of room here.  Of course my stomach is displaced so the heartburn is horrible!  Tums are my best friend at this point. Eating isn't as easy becuase I can only eat but so much at once.  Most of the time my pasta order for lunch lasts for 3 meals for me.  Oh, how could I forget.....I walk around frequently with my right hip out of place.  This is a feeling that I know for sure because I caused this injury when I was younger in gymnastics.  Not fun at all when it's out.  I can also hear it pop when that never used to happen.  I would have thought that I'd have rip roaring sciatica at this point due to my back problems, but thankfully my lower back has felt pretty good over the last several months.  It's my mid back that hurts now due to proper posture and every growing boobs!

Tuesday, March 4, 2014

19 Week Update

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19 Weeks....Where to begin?

     For the most part I feel like a normal person again.  I will say that I have to pee ALL THE TIME! The smallest amount feels like a gallon is sitting there.  I'm assuming this is mainly because the baby is growing inside of me rather than towards the outside.  I'm hardly showing at all.  I posted a picture last week of what I considered a baby bump and my friend said it looked more as if I had missed a week's worth of crunches.  After looking again, I agreed. lol  Hopefully this baby actually pops soon and then maybe it will take some pressure off of my insides. 
     I have no cravings, which I'm assuming is a good thing.  My weight has pretty much stayed the same as I was pre-pregnancy.  This surprises me because my boobs have really gotten larger, my waist has expanded, I have a slight bump, and of course the baby is growing.  I had to break down this past weekend and order in new bras because I can no longer comfortably fit any of my sports bras or regular bras anymore.  And due to the growth and looming potential growth I've been really good at lotioning up really well every day.  

Sleeping.  That's a Joke!

     Sleeping has been hard.  I can't tell whether my insomnia is back or if it's truly the hormones that have caused the change in my sleeping pattern.  Either way I don't really sleep much day or night. I'm awake just about every hour on the hour and it's no fun.  Getting in a comfortable position is also harder now because my hips hurt when I lay on my side.  I have all kinds of pillows lined up on the bed in attempts at comfort.  There's practically no room left on the bed for my fiance.  The back pain that I was having from a larger chest has started to subside since I'm beginning to get used to the extra weight and am doing my best to practice proper posture as well. 


     I've worked with animals just about my entire life including having worked in a shelter with lots of cats for about a year.  Once pregnant I made sure that I requested a test pulled to check my antibody level.  I also own a cat, but I've had him his whole life, he's indoor only, and does not catch gross creatures, and again never steps foot outside.  Even with me not being concerned about my cat my fiance has been on litter box duty since day one.  My doctor called yesterday morning and surprisingly my results were negative!  Negative? Yes, negative meaning I have ZERO exposure to it at all.  I was shocked.  I guess that just means I've been a very good girl in this field and am very vigilant about washing my hands and not putting things in my mouth.  This just means that I will continue to practice with the same precautions and not handle the cat litter at work if at all possible, and if unavoidable, continue doing it with gloves and washing my hands afterward.

Genetic Screening

     Typically genetic screening should be done on both mom and dad during the planning phases of pregnancy to screen for any potential unknowns that your child may be effected by.  My screening was done in 2 phases a month apart and another part of my doctor call yesterday was the good news that I'm clear of any genetic defects!  That makes us a happy camper when it comes to the baby.  He didn't really need to be tested.  Let's say he did have something we would have to carry the same gene in order for it to have the potential of effecting our child. 

What happens next?

    Next week I'm scheduled for an ultrasound to check the development of the baby.  Luckily I can look in on it because I have access to an ultrasound and work.  It's amazing how quickly the baby is growing, moving, and shaping in to looking like a person week by week.  At this point I can feel some motion.  I was really stressed a few days ago and could really feel the motion.  My stress placed a lot of stress on the baby and I have now learned my lesson.  I thought we knew what the sex of the baby was at our 12 week ultrasound, but after looking a few other times I could no longer say 100% whether it was a boy or a girl, so hopefully next week that debate will be put to rest by the doctor.

Friday, February 7, 2014

I'm almost at 16 weeks 4 months 5 to go

I have finally felt much more normal recently. It feels as though the fog has lifted and I'm seeing clearly again. For a while there I thought I was going to slip in to a depression.  It really took a toll on my mental stability and had me wondering if I was ever going to be normal again. And normal at this point is relative.  Mentally I'm back to normal but of course my body is ever changing. There are foods and other things that I still don't tolerate and I have on and off days of nausea and headaches.  I'm finally to the point where I'm ready to get back to working out! Baby steps.

Oh, still no baby bump! 

What's next? 
I have a baby shower in 3 months. I will actually have 2 of them. One up north and one down south. I'm guessing I have to put together a registry? ? I found a list of needs online and quickly closed the tab. It's a bit much to take in. I guess I should start at some point? Or maybe not? I'll wait another month for the ultrasound that should confirm the sex of the baby and go from there. I don't have a clue about nursery decor or color themes. Lord help me. We are moving in April so I guess I can put that part off until then.

So really not too much has changed other than I'm not horribly ill anymore. Oh, I did get round ligament pain and thought my uterus was trying to kill me. When that happens you can feel it move around. So super gross! 

Sunday, January 26, 2014

I'm Pregnant!! Follow My Journey

Well I'm pregnant! (13.5 weeks)  It was totally unplanned, but it's happening now.

I'm the type of person that could live the rest of their life without a child and be totally happy, but I knew when I decided to get married that this would mean having at least one child; I was okay with that.  I just expected this to happen in late 2014 or early 2015.

My Experience thus far?

The first 5-6 weeks were okay, I didn't feel pregnant, no hormonal changes, nothing.  I was working out and doing everything I had been doing before.  I was even proud of my gains in the gym and was lifting better and better every week.  Then it hit me like a ton of bricks.  Around 6 weeks I all of a sudden had a major migraine that lasted for about 5 days.  From there I just started feeling like crap.  I started to get really tired, I was so nauseated that eating was not an option for me and I was coming to work sick for every shift with a massive headache (not migraine).  I was really unable to consume anything due to the nausea, I was hypersalivating, dry heaving, and hardly able to get out of the bed without feeling motion sick or the need to run for the toilet.  At 8 1/2 weeks I found myself in the ER.  I woke up that morning, I hadn't eaten much in days nor been able to hydrate much, I showered and all of a sudden felt very week and then my body began to hurt all over.  I felt like I was shutting down.  I called my other half home and we went to the emergency room where I was hooked to IV fluids and given IV zofran to calm down the nausea.  I stayed for several hours, it wasn't fun and I had no intentions of returning.  From there I was put on anti-nausea oral meds so that I could at least eat.  Although I was not vomiting much substance they still said that I had hyperemesis.  I lost 10+ lbs by my 12 week doctor visit.  I was also unable to take any vitamins because they cause me to want to puke.

Crackers?  That's a Joke!

Crackers don't solve anything (in my case) and believe me, if the little person inside of you wants to send their order back up to you, it will happen no matter what you eat!  Believe that!  It didn't matter when I ate, or what I ate, if I was nauseated food was not an option and if I forced myself to eat it was all going to come back up even if it took a few hours. 

13.5 weeks - My current situation

My 24/7 nausea is finally starting to get a little better, not much but a little bit.  I'm no longer sleeping 12-14 hours or more a day.  I'm starting to have small spurts of energy between sleeping hours and am out of the bed more.  I am still not able to run errands alone. I can't depend on my energy levels so if I venture out alone it has to be a short grocery store trip.  I've come borderline to passing out or just puking in the middle of a store because I either reached my energy limit or needed to eat something right away.

Yes, I had an ultrasound done at 12 weeks and well.....I'm not telling what it's supposed to be :-)  I'll wait for my visit at 20 weeks to confirm the sex a bit better at that time.  I'm just happy that I have access to an ultrasound, I took a peek early this morning and I'm almost certain of the sex at this point. 
What do you think it is?  Hope it is?

How Have I Made It This Far So Sick?

Thankfully my wonderful other half has been my saving grace.  He has had to wait on me 24/7.  Remember, for most of this I was unable to even get out of the bed and get food for myself.  I'm no longer able to eat fast food,  because I want to vomit just thinking about it,  so that means quick meals like that are no longer an option and food has to be cooked at home.  There were days where I thought I had energy, would pull things out to do, and without fail be unable to finish.  Things were constantly left all over the house for him to clean up. I don't know how the house would have gotten cleaned, my laundry done, errands, food cooked, the cat taken care of, groceries etc. without him.  I didn't expect such a major blow to my system. I'm thankful everyday I have such a supportive person by my side.

The Emotional Toll

This is life changing for me. I'm super INDEPENDENT!  I don't ask for help or expect help in the least bit.  This experience rendered me so helpless for such a long period of time that it has been a super blow to my ego and confidence. 

What Have I Learned So Far?

I've learned that I'm in it for the long haul with the right person.  The demands I've placed on him, the amount of things I need, followed by the lack of attention I give to him because I'm either too sick or asleep......some men would have just thought that this was all way too much to deal with.  He's in it for the long haul.  Never once did I hear a complaint or once did I hear him say, "will this be over soon" or "how much longer will I have to do this for you".  His focus was on making sure I was as healthy as I could be in my condition.

I just pray that the following weeks to come allow me to get back to normal and that I continue on with a healthy pregnancy.  

Pictures to be posted soon.  Not much going on with my tummy just yet.

Friday, October 25, 2013

Back On My Workout Grind!

I promised the REAL me, Good, Bad and Ugly..............
Drum roooooolllll please!!  YES!  It's true, I'm back on the workout grind.....again.  I'm the worst yo-yo'r I  know. :-(   But I'm on it with a great motivational trainer and partner.  This time I'm getting more into lifting weights, not just my cardio that was doing before.  I'm in it to win it this time.  We all know I'm prone for injury, but this time I have a trainer that I'm working with that knows my alignment and how I work along with what aggravates my back injury.

So, here we go...... STATS:
Currently (here's the horrible honest truth ugh!)
Height: 5'6"
Weight 168lbs (76.36kg)
Bust- 34DD
Waist- 26.5"
Hips - 44"
Pant size loose fitting size 11 ( I actually need new, smaller jeans)

I will add leg and arm measurements in a few days. 
And of course I will post videos- Here is a starting pic for you all

Last 2 days of my Juice fast/cleanse

The Last few days of the cleanse and why I decided to stop

Okay, so here's what happened and I will apologize ahead of time if you feel that any of this is TMI, but it should be tossed out there.  So after 5 days of the cleanse I felt fine with one exception.  Lets just say my gut stopped moving!!  This was not a good thing.  The con to juicing.....your gut could stop moving, and or cause constipation.  I will not say constipation I will say that it just stopped moving.  And I felt gross because of that.  If your body is detoxing, but you are unable to flush the toxins out of your system then there is a problem!  You are holding on to toxins and therefore will feel pretty icky!  You body then may potentially reabsorb the toxins it was trying to get rid of in the first place.  I did some digging, spoke to my mom and a doctor at my job that knows a little about everything.  My mom suggested that I add a digestive enzyme and probiotics to my diet to get the gut moving and being productive again and the doc said maybe I should take something like a fiber supplement, you know that powder stuff.  Downside to the probiotics and enzymes was that I'd already spent a small fortune for this cleanse and now I was going to have to come out of pocket again for more supplements, fact is, I couldn't do it.  At this point I spoke with the doctor here and she suggested that I get off of the diet for fear that my body was retaining the toxins and I needed actual bulk moving through my system for my gut to work appropriately and to stay away from things like laxative teas that stimulate the movement of your gut because you want this to happen naturally.  So, I stopped.  I went back to eating regular food again.

What am I doing now?

I must admit that i liked the juicing so I've decided to make that part of my daily life. I've also noticed that I've been craving veggies and foods with color.  Most of those things of color are your living raw foods.  This has also got me jump started to eating clean as well.

My Support System?

My fiance/personal trainer and those of you that write to me on Facebook and we keep each other motivated.  I really love hearing how all of you are progressing with your fitness goals.  If you haven't you can write to me on Facebook.  My fiance was recently cleared to get back to working out after a nasty bike accident in August.  Now that he's back on his grind it is more of a motivation for me to get my butt back in gear and go for it again.   He is on his #nodaysoff #teamfitness #nopainnogain madness right now and he's making his meals.  I've decided to join in full force.   I'm a super organized person and therefore I've made an eating schedule complete with how to make the things on the list.  Working nights makes my life a little complicated, but it's simple, I'll have to come home in the morning, gym, shower, cook for a few days and then head to sleep to be at work in time.  

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Friday, October 18, 2013

Juicing- The first 3 days

Sooooo how have I done?

     The first day of juicing was not bad at all, it was the second day that was difficult.  As most know I work at an emergency animal hospital over night so on day 2 I didn't get off until 8am that morning.  for this reason I also have to kind of change my juicing schedule and spread out about 3 juices over my 10 hour work shift.  The second day though was off because I did not have to work that night (Wednesday) and I was super tired.  I got home, finished drinking my last juice for the 24 hour period and passed out!  I didn't do much of anything that day besides drink water.  I honestly didn't want to drink or even eat anything.  That night at around 8pm we had to leave to go to a haunted house we had tickets for and I had no time to grab anything before leaving the house. By the time we were done I was starving! So what did I do?  I had to actually eat something.  Do I consider this a failure?  Nope, not by any means.  I'm not going to pass out or have a hypoglycemic episode all because I must make it home to juice.  Thursday, today, has been a much better day for me. I woke up bright and early, I had to cook breakfast and lunch for my other half and even then I wasn't tempted at all.  I then made sure I juiced for the day, cleaned up, I was done!  So it makes it much easier if I just get everything done at one time.  Tonight at work I brought 3 juices with me, 1 I drink on the way in and the other 2 I space out and I also bring green tea with me to and a large thing of H20.  So hunger?  Not so much.
Tired and icky feeling?

Nope.  I can't say that I've felt this way.  There are other things going or not going on that I'm having issues with but I don't go in detail.  Lets just say that I now need to invest in a great probiotic and digestive enzymes. 

Gross Juices?

I am not a fan of the kale, lemon, cucumber, green apple and ginger mixture at all.  The lemon goes in unpeeled and it's way too strong and the kale smells like grass really. That one puts me a bit on the nauseous side.  I'm going to have to alter it a bit.  I thought the juice with the beets was going to make me vomit because i detest the thought of eating beets, but it didn't.  I actually like it.  Everything else thus far is very tolerable.

    I will continue as long as my wallet can afford it, because buying produce like this is very expensive.  You can easily spend $100 a week juicing every day.  I don't have anything seriously local and inexpensive where I am.  If I were still in Florida I could do this juice cleanse for next to nothing.

Well, that's it for now.  Lets see what tomorrow brings.

Wednesday, October 16, 2013

What's This Juicing Craze?

  Okay, so this juicing thing has been around for quite some time now.  I've recently been seeing TV adds for a documentary called Fat, Sick and Nearly Dead.  The other morning at about 4am I decided to check it out.  Of course my first thought was, "great they're going to try to sell me something", but that wasn't so.  Sell?? No.  Convince you to change a few things about your life? Yes.  It's a must see Here is the link.

   Watching this did nothing more than to confirm the things that I'm already well aware of with your body, foods, nutrients and how they all effect your overall health.  Yes, you are definitely what you eat.  This made me think about a few things.  First let me clear the air, I LOVE MEAT! I am a meat eater at heart, it's something that I actually crave.  I'm trying to get better about meat though and have finally located local farmers that have only grass fed and finished meats.  Anyways, with that said my mom is all in to the health craze and GMO's blah blah blah, I could go on about that stuff for forever, but I won't; Point is that she has been telling me that with my blood type I would best thrive off of green leafy veggies.....I lack these....big time.  Over the last year she has slowly gotten off of meat and for the most part eats fruits, veggies, lentils and whatever she can boil in a pot quickly.  She has been preaching these things to me over and over and I've done my homework.  It wasn't until I saw this though that I put 2 and 2 together that morning.  I moved to Philadelphia a little over 3 months ago and since I moved here there are a few things I haven't been doing, eating as healthy as I was in Florida and enjoying long runs outside on the Suncoast Trail. Instead it's indoor working out and fast food, occasional cooking, or eating nothing due to my night time work schedule.  I found my body having food cravings, but when I eat what I think will cure the craving it either doesn't or I turn my nose up to it.  So BOOM!  It hit me!  The lack of sunshine along with a lack of fruits and veggies has seriously taken a toll on my system.  Time for a change, time for a cleanse and a "Reboot" as Joe calls it.

Reboot Myself!
  I went out that very same day after doing some research about blenders and decided on a great starter juicer, Bella juicer, sold at target for a decent price.  There is no way I'm spending $300 out the gate for one of those top of the line juicers.  So far this juicer hasn't given me any trouble, easy to clean, easy to use, and has 2 speeds.  The only downfall is that I have to send the pulp back through a second time in order to get it dry enough. I yield a crazy amount of juice and believe I'm getting the amount expected from each round of juicing. 
  The website offers a daily guide for juicing complete with recipes, a shopping list, and a menu to follow.  I've decided to go for 10-15 days of juicing.  The only thing I did differently was go straight in to juicing instead of slowly backing off everything for a week.  What can I say?  I'm a go getter!

I will include the link of my review of the juicer from the moment I unpacked it and made my first juice and make entries every few days to keep you posted on my progress.

   Think this is something for you??  Let me know, share your experience with me.  Already juicing? I want to know what you have been through and what you've learned along the way.

This is 2 apples, 3 carrots and a small piece of ginter.
My breakfast from day 1

These are all screen shots from my upcoming YouTube Video.


Saturday, April 21, 2012



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Thursday, September 29, 2011

Salon vs. Bald? Hair or No Hair? Relaxed or Natural?

Someone asked me to blog on this topic. I wasn't quite sure, but just so happens that earlier that day I was speaking to a friend about hair and later that same night I saw something on TV about hair being part of your first impression. Here goes nothing........

So, it takes guts along with a nicely shaped head to pull off a super short, Amber Rose, type cut. I have nothing against that, to each is own. The question that follows a cut like that is, Why?! I understand that for some it functions better in their day to day life, but is it low maintenance? How often do you have to cut it? And lets talk "black hair" or "ethnic hair" if you will. If you have the ethnic coarse hair then how often do you have to relax it if you want to keep it nice and slicked down with this super short cut?

I was in the bathroom at a club a few weeks ago and while washing my hands I heard a woman discussing how she relaxed her super short, slicked down hair, once a week! And it was dyed a golden color. That's insane! During the same convo a lady had dreads and she says that she loves her locks, but they must be maintained, must be small, and must be kept about chin length for her, but that she's really in to hair and appreciates all types of hair. At this moment I'm done washing my hands, the convo was pretty quick, and before I could turn around the ladies began discussing my hair, whether it was all mine, and that I must not be "all the way black". LMAO my eyes got huge and everyone was waiting for me to answer. Before I could speak, in comes my distraction, for the moment, a woman that tells them how rude they were. She says they should have said how nice my hair is and should have asked where I get it done. Then maybe I would have revealed whether it was real or not. After the brief scold, everyone turned back to me for the answer. At this point I'm looking like a deer in headlights because all I wanted to do was wash my hands! I then started to laugh and explain that....... when I go out I add a few clip ins to my hair that I make myself. I also explained that I no longer get relaxers and have had to train my hair. Then came an onslaught of questions that thankfully a drunken bride, still in her wedding dress, was this her reception?, bursts in the bathroom declaring that she was just wed. Well good for her and out I went! The funny part was that the night before, at a different club, a woman started playing in my hair as we were waiting in line for the bathroom! I turned around in shock and she apologized saying that my hair was so pretty she couldn't resist and that, "It feels so real! Is it all real?". I just began to laugh and observed that this lady also had a super low cut that was blonde and slicked down.

Needless to say I've had quite a few hair questions, even one morning as I drove through McDonald's drive thru. And let's not forget the lady in walmart 2 days ago that thought that touching my hair without an invitation was okay. Goodness!

The truth about my personal hair. So I am mixed, Puerto Rican (mom) and Black (dad). My mom has the same texture hair as I do and my dad has soft wavy hair. As a kid I had soft wavy/curly hair for quite some time. At about the age of 4 I began getting relaxers to better maintain my wild thick hair. In my teens I began to experiment with dye and learned a hard lesson. You can't bleach and relax your hair!! It falls out!! Thankfully I have a ton of hair and was able to hide the damage. In about the 10th grade my hair was fried! It went from past the shoulders to my chin and no bangs due to all the damage from relaxers, dye, and abuse with the flat irons and blow dryer. I didn't dye my hair again for years and even then I still had problems.

About 3 years ago I was having lots of breakage, hair was falling out, the texture was uneven, the length was uneven, I mean it was to the point that I would wake up and some small section of hair would have broken off and only be about 3 inches long! I was devastated and at that point said, NO MORE RELAXERS! And then the thought, well what am I gonna do with all this hair then? I went to see my wonderful stylist and hair savior, Kyong! She did a consult, made a plan and the next week I was in to get a treatment called the Grund. Look it up if you would like to know more about it. It conditions, strengthens and is not a harsh chemical treatment on your hair and can be safely done even after a dye job or relaxer. Right after the Grund was done I could safely run my fingers through my hair without any loss of hair or breakage. I was excited! It wasn't cheap, took 4hrs, but was well worth it.

It was a while before I had to see Kyong again for a treatment aside from regular trims. Last summer around June I went back to her for another hair treatment. This time I had the original formula Brazilian done. It took much less time than the grund because it is about 1 step less, but the downfall was that I couldn't wash my hair for like 5 days or so. This stopped my work out and horseback riding activities. But when I got to hot and humid Miami it did alright with the humidity. And for a while after you have to use very specific shampoos in your hair in order not to strip it out right away. At the moment my hair continues to grow strong, I straighten it about once a week and the rest of the time it's wash and wear due to my work out and farm work. I sweat too much to keep straight hair.

My mom cut it all off!! My mom used to have beautiful hair, much longer than mine. I called her one day and she said that she cut it all off!! My mom had pulled a Britney Spears!!! I could not believe my ears!!! My mom's philosophy is that, "It's just hair". Are you crazy?! She said she was tired of having to deal with it and she was over it so she whacked it off! She has no plans on growing her hair back and is quite content with how it is. More power to her, but it's not a move I would pull.

Hair and self confidence- First Impression- I was watching the news where they ran a story about how a bad hair day for women is linked to how they feel and present themselves the rest of that day. The hair is very directly tied to our emotions and outward projection to others. It's amazing how this works. I will be honest, although my hair is a nice length I do not like doing photo shoots without extensions in. I don't feel as sexy without them. When I go out to a club or a nice event, in go the clips. I just feel that it gives me an extra umph! Not that I couldn't go with my real hair and make it look just as nice.
Is it a silly thing that your hair maybe not speaks for you, but has such a huge influence on how you present yourself to someone? That something as simple as hair could ruin your whole day? Writing this is leaving me with more questions than answers.

To sum this all up, I don't really care one way or the other what you do, just make whatever choice you've made work! Wear it proudly. I've had to work horrible haircuts before. I'm sure we all have. But ladies, if you want to go back to being natural, do you really have to shave it all off to accomplish it? What makes you want to go back natural? For me it was just damaging my hair to get the chemical laden relaxers. My personal preference is long beautiful hair. And I truly envy those that are able to cut it all off and still look gorgeous!

I would love to hear what you ladies have done with your hair and why. How do you maintain it? Ladies are you interested in getting your hair back to a healthy state and want some tips? Hit me up! Men, what do you prefer on your woman?

Tuesday, August 16, 2011

Say a Kind Word Today

It amazes me how you never know what's going on in someone's head. I just saw a story about a person hanging himself, rich, well off, and seemed to have it all. Say a kind word to someone today, you never know, you could save a life.

TRUE STORY- This story really makes me tear every time I think of it.
At the clinic I just left before I moved to FL we had an old lady client, we'll call her Sue, and every time she was in the clinic and saw a soldier in uniform, no matter what she was doing, she would go out of her way to thank them for their service and tell them how much they were appreciated. Our client base was mostly military. So after hearing this for the millionth time I turned to my co-worker and said, man she's weird, she does this every time she comes in here. My co-worker turned and said there's a reason. She told me that one day Sue was out and passed a soldier, Sue normally would thank service members, but not all the time, this time she passed the soldier, had second thoughts and went back to give them her thank you speech. Right after Sue finished speaking the soldier broke down and thanked her for her kind words telling her that she had saved his life. He was feeling very unappreciated, very down and planned on heading home to kill himself that day.
I could not believe what I was hearing. It brought instant tears to my eyes. I mean could you imagine?? Words carry a large weight. Please say a kind word or two today. And please teach your kids the value of kind words.

That's all for today.


Wednesday, August 10, 2011

My life on the farm!

I'm sure you guys love the ever changing climate of my life just as much as I do. I now live on a BIRD FARM!! What are the odds?? So I'm back in Florida and helping out my mom on her farm. Here she raises all types of chickens and most importantly PEACOCKS! The birds are beautiful and have personalities all their own. Believe me, these birds are almost like dogs, they either like you or they don't. It's a pretty interesting place to be.

There has been a serious adjustment period for me. It has taken me a week to just get over the fact that I'm here. I made a choice as a responsible daughter to come down to help my mom out because she is not in the best of health and if you allow it, a farm will grow out of control. There is lots to be organized here and bunch of birds to send to new homes because we must downsize here.

My mom began growing this bird farm with the intention of making it a hands on educational place for children. She has had many of her clients take great interest in the farm and children love to come experience something and be hands on with animals they would normally never be able to touch. We do have a state recognized name under a non-profit organization here- The full title- Cielo Heritage Poultry and Peafowl Farm Incorporated. We are particularly focusing on the heritage chickens that are on the endangered list. The heritage chickens we have will be show quality so that we have the best stock of birds and the children that participate in 4-H are able to have a quality bird and be well educated on the type of bird they have.

As things progress here I hope be able to give you updates along with pictures and video.

Anything you want to see specifically??

P.S. I do have a farm shoot coming up. I'm gonna be creative with this on, bikini and muck boots!!

Wednesday, August 11, 2010


I am officially finsished with modeling!! Long time coming, I have my own reasons, it is what it is, all that good stuff. Soooo on to the next! I might just keep pushing forward in my photography, but I'm honestly considering hanging that up also. We shall see what happens over the next few weeks.

In the meantime I'm going to put myself in to my horse, Blaze. I love spending time with him and the other horses at my friends house. Couldn't ask for a better bond with such a large creature.

The workouts do continue on. I'm more working out at the gym now. P90x gave me a great leg up on things and I was able to drop weight and tone up.

Until the next update, Have a great week!

Thursday, February 4, 2010

End of week 4 almost through week 5!

Okay, I know I'm a little behind schedule on this update, but I went outta town over the weekend and was super tired when I got back.

Anyways 4 week Progress??? Hmmm......
  • My legs are much tighter. Finally the dimples are going away. Yes people, I have cellulite too! I'm getting some significant definition in my calf and thigh areas
  • My ARMS OMG something I'm most proud of , my triceps are cutting in, it's so beautiful!!
  • My stomach is getting flatter! I'm getting much stronger & able to do 25 reps of most everything on the ab ripper DVD. I can even feel definition when i poke around my belly.
  • My back is really getting tight. No more back fat under the bra strap for me!
  • No, I have not lost a large amount of weight. I've only lost like 5 or 6 lbs. Muscle weighs more than fat and you need muscle to begin to burn fat.
  • No, I have not really changed much in measurements either.

So, as you can tell there have been lots of changes going on in a short, dedicated 4 week period. Yes, it has been rough some days. Some days I have to drag myself in front of the DVD play to work out and think to myself, "Lets just get this over with". My eating habits have changed a bunch considering that when I eat something out of my norm I get sick to my stomach.

I'm still thinking about broadcasting some of my workouts. We'll see.

Stay up!

Alonna "AJ" James

Thursday, January 21, 2010

Week 3 coming to an end

I am coming to the end of week #3!! I've been making super efforts to push through and do make up sessions when life steps in and throw me off. I already feel myself getting much stronger. Infact last night was arms and shoulders, I can't remember what the move was, but the 10lb weights aren't so heavy anymore and I almost dinged myself in the face. That would have been beautiful! lol

I am really happy to announce that for the first time I was able to do 20 stacked push ups!!

I haven't done any measurments and probably won't until the end of week 4 or 5. I will keep u guys posted on that.

Have a beautiful day! Remember only 1 hour of ur time (except for yoga day).

Wednesday, January 13, 2010


Yesterday was my birthday and I did have a very joyful day spent with the people that mean the most to me. With that said...... it did not spot me from eating lots of bad food that I shouldn't have, nor did it stop me from my work out. Just because it was my birthday it was no excuse to slack off. Besides, as I always say, it's only an hour of your time. In fact I got off of work late, rushed home, popped in my dvd, worked out, and was dressed for my birthday dinner with 10mins to spare. So if I can do it so can you.

Have a great day!!

Sunday, January 10, 2010

The End of week 1!

I MADE IT! This was a very hard long week for me. My work hours kept pushing back my workout times, but I still managed to push through, dedicate an hour of my time, 1.5hrs on yoga day (ugh), and get it DONE! I will admit that i'm so sore that I hurt sitting still but soon enough this will pass.

I'm doing really well with my meal planning and cooking. I don't follow exactly what P90X has laid out for me, I modify it some what. For the most part I'm making sure to take in lots of protein. I have also cut out fast food all together. The trick to that..... I made sure I spent all my money on groceries. I also allow myself to have 1 cheat day. Cheat day means 1 really YUMMY meal during that day and it's a meal that I cook, no ordering out. I also will be doing it on a workout day. I atleast want to be able to burn off some of the calories from the meal. I don't want to do it on my rest day when I'm bumming it & hardly burning any calories.

I'm still trying to get a workout buddy but so many people have so many excuses about getting in shape. It kind of annoys me because it's only 1 hour of your time, 2 TV shows! And so what if you can't do as many reps as there are on the DVD, you do what you can do. Believe me, one day you will be able to keep up with everything.

I'm done with my sunday rant. I'll come back later to edit this post with measurements.

P.S. I've already gained several pounds of muscle this week. Time to stop looking at the scale or I'll really get discouraged. I alwasy pack on pounds before I begin to shed them. Need muscle to burn fat!

Tuesday, January 5, 2010


Hey guys, I'm checking in. This is day 2 of my P90X Lean program. Lets just say that I forgot how heavy my legs are. lol. They are super sore today. I also forgot how much of a great shape I was in while doing the first round of P90X. 2 days in, and 88 more days to go. I can't wait to see my progress here in the next few weeks. I'm going to make sure I take some measurements and stuff tomorrow so that I can chart my progress; along with pics. And for the record I've kept off the inches from the first 7 week round that I did of P90X.

Tonight's dinner....... baked chicken breast stuffed with spinach and a lil bit of cheese with a side of brown rice!! Yummy!

Special hello to everyone in my P90X group that I've just joined. If you're reading this then that means you got my email tonight. Heeey!!


Sunday, January 3, 2010

My bad, I kno I kno

Okay everyone I know I have been gone for a really long time. Soooo many many things happened that got me off course, but I'm back. I did tone up lots with my last round of P90X, dropped several inches off of my waist, and lost a few pounds while I was recovering from my tonsillectomy. Now that I'm all healed and cleared I'm back on my grind. I really want to make it through the FULL course of the P90X so that I can order the Insanity series next. Work out till you vomit!! lol Gross huh???

Anyways, my BIRTHDAY is Jan 12th, right around the corner and I need to find something great to do for it. Any suggestions?? Let me know how you celebrated one of your best birthdays. You can submit a comment here or you can email me @ Hope to chat with you guys soon!

Oh yeah, if you want to keep up to date with my work outs or want to get on schedule with me just let me know. Most workouts will take place around 6:30pm, weds at 7:30pm and a random time on saturdays. Stay tuned b/c I may just allow you to watch my workouts, but those will be announced.

I will probably broadcast my first one tomorrow 1/4/10. Since that's the case log on to yahoo about 10mins before hand to be accepted. Hopefully my cam works, it's BUSTED, time for a new one.

Chat with you guys later!!

Wednesday, June 10, 2009

P90X update week 5

So I finished 4 weeks of P90X. I had to take a week off because my sleeping schedule was thrown way off and I got sick last week, but I'm back on the grind for week 5. So far I've lost 3 inches on my waist and dropped a total of 6lbs and am gaining great muscle tone in my arms and legs, especially my thighs! I'm very happy with the results. I'm also able to do a ton more push ups than ever and am using heavier weights for some of the arm/lunge combos. If any of you know what plank to chataranga run is then you know how hard it is. The 5th week and I was able to get down to chatranga run without even thinking about it!!

Well I'll keep you all posted. If any of you have just started or have been on it I would love to hear from you. And if you're thinking about getting it, just do it!! You can't go wrong.

Until next time,
Alonna "AJ" James

Sunday, May 17, 2009

2nd week of P90X comes to an end

I've completed 2 weeks of P90X so far. I'm already seeing results. I'm successuflly sticking to a high protein diet and so far have dropped 4lbs, an inch on my thighs, and a half inch on my waist. Keep in mind I've been working out for 2 weeks, but started the diet the week before I started working out. And some of my tactics my be a little too drasitc for some.

This week I managed to get a small tear of my left calf muscle. If you all remember correctly I did a horrible tear on my right calf muscle a few months ago that put me outta commission for about 2 weeks. But this one is not as bad and I'm working through it.

I really really hated the yogaX and this past week I decided to open my mind some more to it and really put a 100% in. Half the problem is that it seems never endning because the dvd is 1.5 hrs. That's just way too freaking long for something so slow for me. At the end of the session I felt relaxed, tight, and calm all over. It was really weird. Now that I gave it a real chance I like it.
I really love the Kenpo workout. Lots of sweat! It keeps your heartrate up, it's non stop.

That's all for now I'll make sure to update again at the end of phase one.

Friday, May 1, 2009

P90X - 89 more days to go

Alright so for the most part no back issues. Okay, well I'm being pinched at the moment, but I'll take it easy. So I started working out with the P90X system. I've seen it for a very long time on infomercials and thought it seemed like great body boot camp. On top of it I have met several people that have used it and have EXCELLENT results. Those that have used it swear by it. I decided to just spend the money and get it.

I opened the box last night, read over all the literature that comes with it, and started on day 90! They give you a fit test to begin with. I must say that if you're not in at least good shape and have some enurance it may not be for you. The first day kicked my ass! I could not complete certain sets. It made me feel good to see a workout dvd where the people on the tv were sweating and suffering just as much as I was. For the most part they did everything, but at their own pace and slight modifications.

Needless to say today I'm super sore! Oh yeah, I did take before pics and measurements which are so embarrasing I'll keep them to myself for now.

They do have an eating plan in the nutrition plan book and i've been told that you don't have to follow it exactly to have results, but you still need to eat good clean foods. If you can't go by the menu they lay out for you they do break down how many servings of protiens, carbs, fats, fruits, ect that you can have during the day along with a list of all the foods you CAN eat and how much of each is considered to be a serving.

Okay to wrap it up because I'm rambling....... You will need a pull up bar, yoga mat, weights, a chair(helps if you need assistance with pull ups), and it's recommended to have a heart rate monitor so that you're not overworking yourself. Do think about a recovery drink for after your workouts because an hour with the dvd is hell, you will be drained therefore needed to put things back in your body to help you recover from your workout.

I'll keep you posted. Should any of you decide to try it let me know!

Have a great weekend!

AJ~~~ 89 more days to go!

Wednesday, March 18, 2009

March Update/Announcement......

Alright, so I've been pain free for about 2 weeks and have forced myself back in the gym. This time minus a personal trainer for the moment. Right now I'm going to concentrate on cardio and abs for 3-4 weeks and move in to weights after that, still keeping up with cardio of course. My cardio for the most part consists of the Gauntlet (mobile steps) aka stairway to hell (thanks T). I love those stairs, they give you a great thigh and booty work out while you sweat you ass off! My nomal time is 45mins, but if I'm really feeling it I can go for an hour!

I will be the North Carolina, and surrounding areas, photographer for Southern Xposure Models ( I'm starting off by going down to Daytona the weekend of the 20th to shoot models with the lead photographer Ahmed Almodovar. So ladies if you're interested in being shot by me hit me up!

Wednesday, January 28, 2009

Update working out & injuries

Here it is. My calf muscle is healed for the most part, it's still sore and I still have to work on getting it stretched out and I took 2 weeks off of the gym for it. I was due back in the gym yesterday, 1/27, unfortunatly out of no where my back injury came to haunt me. Since Monday I've been having pain and last night it was so bad i could barely move. Long story short, I've been ordered to get an MRI !! Do you have any clue how expensive those things are? I don't know what I'm going to do. What I do know is that I have to get to the bottom of the problem because the chronic pain is beginning to rule my life. Once again I'm not able to work out.

I will say that I've started Lipo 6 and have lost about 6-7 lbs so far. I just wish i could get more cardio in becasue I'm sure I'd see even more of a difference.

That's the update for now, stay tuned!!

Tuesday, January 6, 2009

So I have an injury today....

First off, yes, yes, yes there is video coming to the blog really soon. No, I was not taping when this injury happened. Yes, I did stretch this morning. What happened was, I was doing squat thrusts, squat down, hands on the ground, thrust ur legs out to a push up position, back in, stand up, jump. On about the 4th one just as i was thrusting back i heard, "POP", coming from my calf muscle. GREAT! This was at the beginning of my work out. I was able to complete the whole hour with no problem. Now it's 12:30 and it's progressivly getting worse. Not what I really wanted. I guess I'll have to stay off of it for a few days or maybe a week until it heals. I'm assumming that i may have had too much tension on it and came really close to a tear, or I may have a slight tear. Either way I have to stay off of it. Other than that things are progressing.

I began taking a suppliment called Lipo 6 yesterday. I must say I can feel it work. You have to work your way up to 4 pills per day. I'm at 2 per day, not so sure how or if I'll make it to 4 pills. I did take some measurements and it looks like I may have lost an 8th of an inch on my waist and hips.

That's the update for now. Stay tuned!

Sunday, December 28, 2008

Gym Update

Alright it has been 2 weeks and I honestly don't see many results.  I have not lost any weight in fact I've gained 2 pounds.  My measurements have not changed either.  I will say that I'm starting to be able to get through the workouts without so much bitching and moaning.  My trainer is great in the fact that he's very creative with the workouts so I'm constantly feeling some sort of muscle pain.  But, no pain no gain.  We also had to scale back on the workouts some because it was causing me to have back pain.  The last few sessions have really worked on getting my abs tighter to give me support with my back.  I've also had to lay off of lifting a lot of weight.  That just means more reps and more sets to feel the burn.  
I do have some video, but I'm having trouble loading it because I have to convert, edit, and merge multiple clips.  Since I have no expertise in this area it's taking longer than expected to load up video.   But soon you will be able to see just what I do in the gym.

Monday, December 8, 2008

Pets, Your Pets, My Pets.....

If you have pet pics and/or stories, send them to and I will make sure to read and post your stories and pics, along with mine, on this blogspot. Thank you to those of you who have sent in pics already.
This pic is from when I first got my Bear.

Check out Ninja, the cute Min Pin.

Check out the spoiled Niko and his story straight from his owner, Mosharraf.
I had to give away my last pit (Brutus) in April 2006 two months before I bought my house in June 2006 (just my luck). I didn’t want to get another dog yet cause I wasn’t over giving away Brutus. So in Nov 06, my cousin told me about this girl who had two puppies left. I was like I don’t know, but my ex overheard it and was like let's go see. (She's the worst, she only likes when they are small and controllable). So we go see the two puppies (they were 3 weeks old), Niko was the quiet and smaller of the two. The other was a little bigger and was more concerned about eating then seeing us. So my ex was like lets get him, and I’m looking at her like I know what’s going to happen ( and it happened). When we brought him back home and went to sleep. This quiet dog turned into a new born baby for the next 5 days straight making sure to cry when we were a sleep leaving me to wake up, while my happy ex is snoring her ass off. And during the day when I got home from work, little nigga was just as playful and bad as hell. It wasn’t his fault cause he was getting carried everywhere by my ex while I let him walk to gain his strength and independency. When the spring 07 came, he was at the dog park scared out his mind because he was new to it and all the bigger dogs would knock him over.  Well that changed in a matter of days. He began playing fine with the other dogs and eventually became the serial humper of the dog park (he would always hump this Great Dane which was f'ing funny). Niko was pretty much my dog because of all the time, energy, money I gave to him. My ex and I broke up around xmas 07 and its been me and him since.

My daily routine for him; he wakes up and sits right in front of me. He'll take his paw and drag my arm to him so I can rub his face ( he's spoiled and thinks he's human). When I stop rubbing his face, he'll keep pawing me until he feels he’s had enough. Then he'll walk on top of me a few times to get me out of bed. I’ll walk him, feed him and put him in the cage so I can go to work. When I get home, I walk him again. Then he is flying around the house or jumping on me trying to play fight. If I’m on the phone he'll whine ( people think I’m babysitting or at my weekend job with kids at a group home) or he'll bark until I pay him attention or I get off the phone. Now when I start to eat, he'll extort me for some of my food, but either standing up at the table, trying to work his way into my lap, or his best bet me cracking down and giving him a piece of my food. After dinner I'll sit on the couch where he either works his way up into my lap or he just straight up jumps onto my lap.  Bedtime, he'll start sniffing the comforter like a vacuum, then start chasing his tail on the bed and until I have to spank him ( yes he gets spanked).  Finally he'll stop and then lay on top of me until he feels like moving.

  Yeah yeah he's spoiled, but he is like any black kid growing up. Lovable but bad as hell and only really becomes scared when I’m yelling or I’m about to spank his ass. All in all, he is my brat and I would trade him for anything.